happiness

Why do we always compare ourselves to others?

compare ourselvesGood morning Loves.  Yesterday I was in Starbucks and I couldn’t help but notice the beautiful woman standing in front of me.  She was a little bit taller than me but she was incredibly skinny, I immediately thought to myself “HHHMMM I wonder what she’s going to order?”  Of course I jumped to a judgemental conclusion and assumed it would be a green tea or something similar.  Lone and behold she orders a Grande Coffee Frappuccino. WHAT?!

Can you drink those and be skinny?  I didn’t think so.  It just goes to show that we really shouldn’t judge a book by its cover.  I wish I was the kind of girl who could eat potato chips, snack on chocolate and drinks Grande Coffee Frappuccinos from Starbucks without gaining weight, but that’s just not the world I love it.  Oh and I’m extremely jealous of people who do.

But why is that?  Shouldn’t I just be happy with who I am, how I look and where I am in life?  Shouldn’t that just be enough?  The honest answer is yes it should, but unfortunately we live in a world where everyone is being judged all the time; it shouldn’t be that way, but it is.  Whether we want to admit it or not we are constantly judging and being judged by others.  It’s only natural that we are also constantly comparing ourselves to other people, isn’t it?

Looks  and style

Have you ever seen someone wearing something and thought “Oh I love that. I wish I was cool enough, or chic enough or sexy enough to wear that.”  I know I have or at least I used to.  Now that I’m in my 30s I really dress how I want to.

Since I left the corporate world of banking to pursue a career in marketing I can dress however I want to.  No more suits and high heels for me.  Now I rock skinny jeans and ballerina flats and I’ve never been happier.

Health and weight

I am definitely one of those people who has spent her life trying to be skinny.  I have literally tried everything from pills and meal plans to living off shakes and you know what?  Nothing worked.  The only thing that works for my own weight loss is the good old fashioned way of working out and eating less.  I finally stopped wishing I was skinny and just started being healthy.

I thought I would be happier if I was skinny, but the truth is I may never be.  All that matters now is that I’m healthy, watching the number on the scale get smaller is just an added bonus and it’s great motivation to keep me going.  So what if I don’t look like the other girls at the gym, I’m not them and it took me 30 years to realize that.

Money and wealth

I lived in debt for the majority of my adult life so fortunately I’ve never had wealth envy.  I was too busying trying to figure out how to pay off my debt that I didn’t have time to be envious of others.  Besides money is so personal that I don’t think we really can compare ourselves to others, but I know some people do.

I admit it would be nice to live in a fabulous city like New York and be so rich that you literally never have to worry about anything, but for me being debt free is enough.

 

About the author

TK

TK is a Certified Financial Planner with over 15 years of experience in the banking industry. She started blogging in 2009 after the market crash. TK enjoys helping people plan their retirement, pay off debt, invest wisely, live on a budget and enjoy happy financial lives. You can see what she's up to on Twitter @TahnyaKristina.

2 Comments

  • For me the reason ist the feeling that who I am is not enough. That something needs to be fixed.

    Unfortunately this feeling does not vanish by changing myself. It vanishes by taking a few deep breaths and relaxing.

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