Good morning Loves. Yesterday I had my usual Sunday coffee date with my friend Anna, you remember her, my friend who always tells me about her dating horror stories. She is very open about all the jerks she’s gone out with and I honestly think sharing the stories helps her work through the issues, it’s a form of personal therapy.
Looking for love in all the wrong places
I asked her what she is looking for in a man and where she is looking for them. She told me that she is looking for men in the only place she knows to look…at bars. Now back in your 20s there were only a few places to meet men and only one place to meet a really good man. Back then we could probably meet a man in the school library but who wants to spend their Saturday nights at the library. So that leaves only one place to find men in your 20s…in a bar.
This is definitely the wrong place to find men. There are a few problems with meeting men in bars, one: they are drunk and two: they are only looking for one thing. That one thing usually lasts less than 24 hours. So if you are looking for a long term relationship you probably won’t find it in a bar.
Is your true love online?
Nowadays people rely on the internet, it’s true for shopping and research it’s also true for their love lives. I’ve heard both good and bad stories about people who met online. One of my good friends met her boyfriend online; within a year she was engaged, married and pregnant. That was a true happily ever after.
I had a friend in high school who connected with someone in an AOL chat room (It was the 90s), met him in person, fell in love, got pregnant and he bailed never to be heard of since. I guess you just never know who’s out there. But that can be said for anyone on the street just like everyone on the internet?
Look for quality love close to home
If you are single in your 30s where can you find your soul mate? I think the best place to find your perfect match is at the office. If you are like me your life consists of three things: work, home and the grocery store so where else would I meet someone (if I was single) if it isn’t at work?
I definitely think that two people working in the same office can be messy, especially if they break up, but this is only true if they work in a small office. Two people working at the same company in different departments can be a match made in heaven.
An office romance means you both come from similar backgrounds, may have similar levels of education and you will probably have a lot to talk about. It also means that your spouse will probably be more understanding about working long hours if they know the pressures of your common workplace.
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