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Dating within your class

Good morning Loves.  My question is to all the singles out there, if you are single and looking not to be where are you looking to find your perfect match?  Ten years ago if we wanted to date we would meet people at a bar, at a restaurant or at a sporting event.  Now we meet people online where we enter our favorite drinks, our favorite foods and our favorite sports team.  My, my how times have changed.

Although I am not single, I do have a single co-worker whose one and only goal in life is to find happiness in love and become a wife.  Obviously I am not her target audience because I have been dating my boyfriend for over a decade and he’s still my boyfriend, but nevertheless I listen to my co-worker go on and on about the qualities she looks for in a man.  She asked me “Would you ever date someone who made less money than you?”

Does income determine your date-a-bility?

My answer was yes because it is probably very rare that each person in a couple make exactly the same amount of money.  Without sounding like a complete and total superficial snot bag, I would probably not date a person who made a lot less money than me.  To be fair I wouldn’t expect someone who makes a lot more money than I do to want to date me either.   I would not however, date someone who was not educated.

The truth is that it’s not actually about the money, you know about the actual dollar amount.  It’s about the way of life, personal philosophies and although it sounds awful to say, it’s about your level of class.

Maybe your class in society determines if you are date-able

I would date someone who made less money than me if they still shared the same values, were well educated, enjoyed the same hobbies I do and had ambition.  But I don’t think I could date someone who had no ambition to better them self, grow as a person or travel the world.  These are all things that I love and if I was single I would be looking for someone who shares the same passions.

I have a co-worker (remember the guy who called all females a name that rhymes with cuts?) who I assume makes approximately the same about of money as me and I wouldn’t date him if we were the last two people on earth.  He is definitely of a lower class and even though we work together on the same team we are completely different people with different family values, different views on life and different ideas of self worth.  Our backgrounds are completely different and so are our lifestyles.  His low class, no manners and lack of social skills are a complete turn off, even though he works in the same job as I do and probably makes the same amount of money.

This just goes to show that we shouldn’t judge people by who we think they are, we should get to know them first.  But if you don’t have time to get to know someone, if you are only reading a few quick facts about someone on their online dating profile maybe income and career are a good place to start looking for your perfect match.

Love always,

TK

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  • Meghan – and the thing about online profiles is you want someone who compliments you, not someone who is the exact same as you. Now that I’m 33 and have been through my own financial problems in the past I probably wouldn’t get serious with someone who wasn’t financially responsible.

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