Good morning Loves. There is a quote from the movie Sex and the City that I just love. Ever since I heard it the first time I watched the movie I just can’t get it out of my head. All Sex and the City fans know Carrie Bradshaw always speaks the truth; but this time she really nailed it. While out for drinks one night with her assistant Bradshaw says “Have fun. That’s what your 20s are for, your 30s are to learn the lessons and your 40s are to pay for the drinks.” #preach
Being 20 is like no other age
Now that I am in my early 30s I can say this is absolutely true. In my 20s I thought I had the world figured out. I was going to graduate from university, get a full time job, make a ton of money, get married and live happily ever after. Boy was I naive! So often adults tell children “Oh if I only knew then what I know now.” I am living proof this is true. I am 33 years old, I have changed jobs three times in the last four years, I was so broke I almost declared bankruptcy and I live with my boyfriend but we aren’t married.
I hated my 20s when I was in them because it was one of the most emotional times in my life. However now that I’m in my 30s I miss those years dearly. My advice to all the 20-somethings out there (without sounding like a wise fairy god mother) is to enjoy your 20s and don’t take anything too seriously…that’s what your 30s are for.
5 Things I Loved About Being 20
You are full of energy. Now I nap at least three nights a week when I get home from work. When I was in my 20s I went out several times a night, took classes and worked two jobs. Just the thought of that lifestyle now just makes me tired.
After graduation a full time job is a blessing. Now I want to find the perfect job and one isn’t enough. After I paid off my debt I became so addicted to having money that I just kept working several jobs. My 9 to 5 is what pays the bills and my side hustles are my fun money that I use for travelling.
Your friends are your life. Now I don’t have time for friends because I have so many jobs and I’m always tired. But back then I lived for my friends. I wanted to be around my friends all the time. My priorities were definitely off, but I didn’t know any better. I wasn’t focused on my career or on my money. I just wanted to have a lot of friends.
It’s expected to make mistakes. In your 30s you are supposed to be financially responsible and act like an adult. In your 20s it’s OK to make mistakes because you have time to learn from them.
Money is a secondary thought. I wasn’t overly concerned with money in my 20s. I didn’t care about saving and I lived pay check to pay check. This is probably why I ended up so much in debt at a young age.
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