Overwhelmed with it all


This past week we had a reality check in our house and it just kind of just put everything into perspective.  Sometimes we are so busy in our little bubbles that we just don’t know how to deal.  I don’t know about you but have spent many late nights crying myself to sleep because I just can’t see beyond the tornado of things to do, bills to pay and places to be.  Does that ever happen to you?

Everyone’s busy, we have to deal

I’m 33 years old and sometimes I think, this can’t be my life.  I work a lot, but that’s my choice.  I pay expensive rent, but that’s also my choice.  When I actually take the time to sit back and think about all the good things in my life I realize that things aren’t so bad all the time; I stop and think maybe I’m just going through a rough patch.   I usually don’t have time to stop and think but the events of this past week forced me to do just that.

My life isn’t always so hectic.  Sometimes we just go through a busy/bad period where it seems that nothing, and I mean nothing, goes right.  Those times are so hard it’s tough to see the light at the end of the tunnel and think of a place where everything goes back to normal.  How do you get through your rough patches?

Sometimes life happens…unexpectedly

On Tuesday night BF had a tooth ache and by Thursday morning he was having emergency dental surgery.  The dentist said he would feel discomfort over the next two days but he shouldn’t be in pain so he didn’t prescribe any medication.  When I got an email from BF saying that he couldn’t talk and asking me to call the dentist to see what kind of pills he could take for the pain I knew something was wrong.  In the 15 years I’ve been with BF I’ve never seen him take anything stronger than a multi vitamin.

I went to the dentist to get a prescription for  pain killers and then rushed home.  I found BF laying in a pool of his own sweat twitching from the pain.  I have never seen him like this and it was terrifying.  The doctor gave him Percocet for the pain and because he never takes medication we didn’t know what effect they would have on his body.

Make time for me time

I sat by the bed for three days as BF rolled in and out of consciousness and it was terrifying.  It’s truly amazing how caught up in our busy lives we  get but when you or a loved one is sick it all just seems so irrelevant.  I know that next week I’ll be playing catch up to finish everything I dropped this past week but I really had no choice.  I would never put work or anything else before BF and for those three days there was nowhere else that I would have been.

The truth is all the noise in life that makes us stressed and busy is just that…noise.  It’s sad that it takes someone getting sick for us to see that it really doesn’t matter.  This past week I learned to stop and enjoy life…even if it’s only for 30 minutes a day.

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I’m on a cleaning binge

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Good morning Loves.  It’s official…I’m on a cleaning binge.  You know how I told you I like to spend my Sundays in bed binge watching Netflix? Well with our upcoming move I’ve decided to let my binge fever get the best of me and I’ve started cleaning house.

I used to be a “I’ll keep it just in case” kind of girl, but now with our upcoming move I’m purging everything that I haven’t used in the last six months.  That’s right if I haven’t worn, used or touched something in my apartment since January 1, 2014 I am getting rid of it.

To be honest it really breaks my heart to throw my belongings away because I feel like throwing my stuff in the garbage is like throwing away money – and in some way it is.  However it is extremely unhealthy to keep clutter in my home.  I want to move to our new apartment with a fresh start and for me that means less stuff.

When is the last time you binge cleaned your home?

If you’re like me you bought clothes that you didn’t need because they were on sale and you keep shoes that look worn just because they’re comfortable.  But now we just have to man up (or pony up as my BF says) and throw our old and unwanted things away.

I shouldn’t say unwanted because that’s not what I meant.  All my stuff is wanted because I bought it.  Unusable is probably the right word.  Have you ever kept something that you loved even though it was old and worn and you probably won’t ever wear it again? Meet my cream colored belt.  I bought it three years ago at TJ Maxx because I saw J.Lo wearing a similar one in an interview; but other than that one summer I haven’t worn it since.   I keep it hanging in my closet just in case I need to wear a cream colored belt some day, but the truth is I shouldn’t keep it because I’m probably never going to wear it.

Why now?

When I told my mother (who is the neatest, cleanest person you’ll ever meet) she asked me “Why are you going on a cleaning tirade?”  I’m not sure it’s a tirade, more like a tornado; I’m the Sharknado of cleaning right now.

So back to the “why”?  We are moving in 30 to 45 days (no we still haven’t found a place) and the less stuff I have the less stuff I have to move.  Since we’ll be paying the movers by the hour I figured it was a good idea.

I have a lot of (unused) stuff

When I tell you that I have stuff I mean I have A LOT of stuff.  I am not a crazy hoarder or anything, don’t worry.  I just keep a hefty supply of lip gloss, nail polish, body wash and moisturizing cream on hand.  I don’t need all of it and honestly it’s just taking up space in my (tiny) apartment.  I am hoping the heartbreak of throwing out my belongings will be dramatic enough that it will stick with me and I’ll think twice before I buy another lip gloss…or whatever.

I am probably not going to become a minimalist, but I am definitely going to stop living in excess of certain things.  Stay tuned  over the next few weeks as I rifle through my clothes, shoes, bags and other stuff to get rid of unused items all around my apartment.

Long weekend vacations

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Good morning Loves.  It’s already the middle of August and soon we’ll be celebrating Labor Day.  Before we know it summer will be over.  If you’re like me you love summer and you try to soak up every last ray over the warm months.  I live in the north east so unlike my friends out in sunny California we don’t get to see the sunshine and warm weather all year round.  Since there are only a few weeks left of summer I for one plan to take advantage of every last minute.

There is something fun about planning a trip in advance and having something to look forward to over the next few weeks.  However, there is something very exciting about booking a last minute trip for an extra long weekend, packing your bags and jumping in your car or hopping on a plane.  Am I right?

Living on the east coast puts me in close range of several great cities such as Boston, New York City and Burlington, Vermont.  There are also some cities on the east coast that I have yet to visit but hope to get to soon such as Washington, D.C., Charleston, South Carolina and anywhere in Connecticut.  I’m not sure why I want to go to Connecticut, but it just looks so great on T.V. and by T.V. I mean on Gilmore Girls.

Where would you go for a last minute vacation?

Here are three places I would love to spend a long weekend:

Boston, MA

Boston Aquarium 3There are so many great things to do in Boston.  It’s the perfect combination of historic America and a modern big city.  The buildings are old, it’s on the coast and the residents are extremely patriotic.  The vibe in Boston is very laid back – maybe it has something to do with all the water, churches and green spaces.  Everywhere you turn in Boston there is a church and they are all old and gorgeous.

Some of my favorite things to do in Boston are visit the New England Aquarium, walk along the harbor front and of course eat mac and cheese at the Quincy Market.  I love walking the streets of Boston and listening to people have conversations – you know I’m a sucker for a man with an accent.

New York City

IMG_0375I absolutely love NYC and I try to visit as often as I can until I move there someday, hopefully someday soon.  You can visit NYC several times a year and never see the same thing.  There are so many different places to stay, so many vibrant neighborhoods to visit and so many great restaurants to eat at that it’s like taking a new vacation every time you go.

My favorite places to visit in NYC are Central Park, downtown including the financial district, Little Italy and Canal Street, the upper west side and the American Museum of Natural History.

Burlington, VT

Vermont 2If you want a quiet, relaxing long weekend then head to Vermont.  Burlington is the cutest little city I ever did see and it’s full of small town charm.  It’s quaint and it’s the perfect place to relax in a wood cabin or stay at a four star spa.

The shopping in South Burlington is great and it has all the stable stores you’ll need to finish off your weekend getaway with a little retail therapy.

Why is Kim Kardashian so successful?

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Good morning Loves.  If there is one thing that I really hate in this world it’s snotty little rich kids who have everything handed to them.  Maybe it’s a little bit of jealousy and a whole lot of envy, but I just can’t stand people who have everything in life served to them on a silver platter.  However at the same time I can’t get enough of watching their lives.  I was obsessed with the TV show Gossip Girl and I religiously watch The Real Housewives.  But one show that I just can’t get into is Keeping up with the Kardashians.

What does it take to be a success?

Every time I see a preview for Keeping up with the Kardashians on the E! network I think to myself, what is this show about? I honestly don’t care about what happens in the lives of Kim, Khloe and Kourtney or any of the other Jenner/Kardashian family members.  However everywhere I turn all I see is one of the Kardashian kids promoting their products.

As far as I know none of the Kardashian’s graduated from college and none of them have a business degree.  So how is it possible that they have a multi-million dollar empire?  I have seen clothing line deals with the retail chain Sears, nail polish deals with OPI, their own clothing store named Dash and most recently a brand new “day in the life” app where people can actually live a day in the life of Kim Kardashian.  Yes that’s right people can actually download an app on their Smartphone and make the daily choices that Mrs. Kim herself would make.

Why am I working so hard every day?

What does this see about America?  It says that uneducated people who have pretty faces, hot bodies and are always at the forefront of every Hollywood scandal can become rich and famous.  It says that people can make boat loads of money without even working for it.

I personally don’t think the Kardashians should be famous and they definitely shouldn’t be rich either.  They are poor role models that tell young girls all they have to do is wear tight clothes and make sex tapes if they want to be famous.

Take a peek through the looking glass

However just to play devil’s advocate let’s just look at the other side of things.  Let’s take the exact same information: no education, no specific talent and a pretty face and look at it from a different angle.  The Kardashians have taken their good looks and turned them into an international brand with product lines and endorsement deals.  They have also squirmed into the social circles of Hollywood’s elite to marry successful athletes and famous singers.

Kim Kardashian may have first been discovered as a teen because of her infamous sex tape, but now she is a very rich woman, wife and mother who has created an empire solely out of her name.  Her brand is herself.  She doesn’t have a specialty, she doesn’t give advice and she isn’t actually qualified to do anything.  However she’s made a fortune.  So here’s the question: is Kim Kardashian just another spoiled brat living off her parents money or is she truly a smart business woman?

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