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Happy October 1st. I love fall.

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Good morning Loves and Happy October 1st.  As you read this BF and I are moving into our new apartment.  Yes the big day is finally here and I’m so excited.  I can’t wait to unpack, get settled in and start decorating – with the help of Pinterest of course, flashback to Monday’s post.  I want to get the boxes cleared out and start enjoying our new space – after all we have more than double the space from our old apartment.

Now enough about me and my big day, let’s get back to today.  It’s the first day of October and although it’s not officially the first day of fall this is when I consider the fall season to be in full swing.  I absolutely love fall, it’s by far my favorite season.  Everything from the smell of the season change to the brisk air and warm sunshine.  Yes it’s safe to say that I for one am definitely glad fall has finally arrived.

5 reasons why I love fall:

1. The new TV lineup.  I know this may sound silly but I really really love watching TV.  All my favorite shows come back on air with the new fall schedule and I even fall in love with some new shows.  Right now I’m happy to be watching Survivor and The Good Wife.  I am also crushing on a few new shows such as How To Get Away With Murder and Gotham (but that may be because it stars Ryan Atwood from The O.C.).

2. Fall fashions.  I could live in boots all year round if it wasn’t so hot in the summer and so cold in the winter.  When I unpack in our new closet (by the way it’s a walk in) I will put my fall wardrobe at the forefront.  This includes my trendy (not wool) scarves, boots, tights and light sweaters.  I wish it didn’t get so cold in the snowy North East because I would love to wear sweaters and leather jackets for more than just a couple months before we switch to goose down coats, mittens and wool hats.  But I guess if I want to live in a different climate I need to move.

3. My Birthday.  Next Thursday is my birthday, in 8 days I will be 34 years old.  I have to admit this year was pretty awesome so I’m excited to see what the next year has to bring.  Usually this time of year I start planning everything I want to do, all the places I want to go and all the things I want to accomplish over the next year; but with our move I can’t think about anything other than pillows, bedrooms and bath mats.  I decided next year I am only going to have one goal – get fit and be happy with who I am.

4. Travelling is cheap.  I usually like to take a weekend trip at the beginning and at the end of fall because it’s the perfect time to travel.  Peak season is over, the weather is still warm enough to be outside and prices drop real low.

5. The colors are gorgeous.  I could walk around all day during fall because the city is just so gorgeous.  The colors of fall landscapes are a major reason why I love to take road trips during the fall.  I find that gazing out the window at orange and red leaves makes the time fly by.

What do you love about fall?

DIY decorating: My new bathroom

Benjamin Moore Palladian Blue walls. Love the shelf space under the sink and the "ladder" towel rack.

Good morning Loves.  BF and I are moving in a mere two days.  Over the past two weeks my mind has been racing with all the logistics of this move as well as decorating ideas for our new apartment.  As it turns out I have absolutely no sense of personal style or taste.  I am the type of person who would buy everything in dark brown and assume it matched well.  So this is my plea, I need your help decorating my new apartment.

How did you pick your new home decor?

My OCD and inability to make a decision (I am a Libra after all) has kept my mind racing over the last few days which resulted in many sleepless nights.  I don’t even know where to begin.  All I know is our new apartment is more than twice as big as our old apartment and I want it to look completely different.

I want our new apartment to be cozy and welcoming.  I want it to be matchy-matchy with some dashes of color and it can’t be too girly because I want BF to be comfortable.  Oh and we need to do it on a budget.  We need to buy furniture as well as decor; I mean everything from drapes to a new sofa.  I also really want a buffet, I’ve never had one and I would love to hang a big mirror over top.

Where did you learn to decorate?

I have absolutely no idea what to do when it comes to decorating, I mean like literally no ideas.  I don’t know if my area rug should match the drapes and if my furniture has to all be the same color.  If my living room and dining room are an open space concept can one have yellow accents and the other red?

The truth is I would just love to hire a professional decorator to come in and turn my new apartment into a home, but I just can’t afford it.  I would also love to hire a Feng Shui expert to come in and set everything up so BF and I have nothing but love, prosperity and good vibes in our new apartment, but he thinks it’s a waste of money.  Besides who needs to spend money on interior decorators when you have awesome online friends?

Do you use Pinterest for home decor ideas?

So in an effort to save money and learn to make things pretty I took to Pinterest for ideas on how to decorate my new apartment.  If you follow me on Pinterest you may have noticed that my pins went from their usual travel destinations to home decor such as pillows, sofas and bedrooms.  Although I would like to blink my eyes and have it all done, I have come to the reality that it is probably going to take me a good six to twelve months to get my apartment looking exactly how I want it.

For my first DIY decorating project I decided to start with the smallest room in the apartment – our new bathroom.  I need to find a balance between clean, colorful and functional.  Once we decide on the color scheme we will need to buy new towels, mats and accessories and we will also need to buy a storage unit, either an armoire or a bar cart style unit.  What do you think?

Here are some DIY ideas I found on Pinterest:

Painting bathroom walls a calming blue is an easy way to add color to your bathroom. #decorating <3 this bathroom--Benjamin Moore Palladian Blue Bathroom and planked walls! i am in LOVE with the tiffany blue in this bathroom. i can see me doing this in my house some day!

Moving is a metaphor for relationships

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Good morning Loves.  As you read this I’m on my way home from New Orleans and as of last Wednesday when I left BF and I still didn’t have a place to live.  We need to move October 1 and we have yet to sign a new lease.   We have  been apartment hunting since June and now that we are in crunch time I am starting to reflect on what it means that neither one of us want to sign a new lease.

What does our inability to sign a lease say about our relationship?

The question to ask is – do we not want to sign a new lease because we haven’t found the perfect apartment or do we just not want to sign a lease with each other?  Looking back over the last few months of apartment hunting I can’t help but see the how our moving situation may be a direct reflection of what we are going through in our relationship.

We have been in our apartment (small as it may be) for six years and although it was supposed to only be temporary we grew accustom to it – downfalls and all.  We are moving because we need more space and we just want some peace and quiet.  We want to move to a neighborhood that is quiet but has essential amenities such as restaurants, a dry cleaner, a grocery store and a pharmacy.

I can’t help but wonder with less than 10 days to move and nowhere to go what does this say about my personality and my relationship with BF?

Is it really about the apartment?

I’ve come to realize that moving is really a metaphor for life and relationships.  We need to move but can’t make a decision on where to live.  Is this because we don’t really know where our relationship is going?

Keep in mind that I could be relocated or even jobless come January with the acquisition of my company by a competing firm and BF has already made it very clear that he doesn’t want to move to another city.

Why the need for change?

We are looking for a complete change.  We want to move to a new apartment in a new neighborhood.  Actually we want everything to be new; we want to live in a small building as oppose to the 21 floor apartment block we live in now.

We want a two bedroom apartment as oppose to our current one bedroom and we want it to be fully equipped including a washer and dryer in the apartment (not shared in the building) as well as a dishwasher.  What does this say about us?  Maybe we are being picky, maybe we are looking for a fresh start or maybe there’s another reason we are looking for the impossible apartment.

Afraid to make a commitment after 15 years?

Some people may say we are being extremely picking when trying to choose a new apartment, but I just think we are being careful in our choice.  Maybe our indecisiveness is a metaphor for our relationship.  Maybe we just don’t know where we are headed or maybe we are completely afraid of making a commitment – could that be?  Why can’t we just make a decision?  My initial thought is it’s because I want to be sure we are living in the perfect apartment in the perfect neighborhood because I definitely don’t want to be stuck for another six years in an apartment that we don’t like. However I can’t help but wonder if our moving criteria are a much needed change in our lives or are we just afraid to making a commitment?

What do you think – am I completely over thinking this?

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Why emotional spending is OK (sometimes)

Emotional spending

Good morning loves.  Well my 11 day vacation is officially over and I’m back at the office.  Even though I’m working away I am definitely still in vacation mode.  I spent five days of my vacation in New Orleans and before that I kicked off all the festivities with a little shopping celebration.

After scouting deals online I set my budget at $100 to spend on myself to celebrate the beginning of, not only my vacation but a new phase in my life.  Here’s a little rundown of what’s coming up in my life aka all the reasons I need o celebrate: we are moving.  That’s about it.  We are moving to a new apartment and starting a new phase in our lives: that’s definitely a reason to celebrate.

Emotional spending is not compulsive spending

Now here’s my point, it’s OK to splurge every now and then if a) you can do it without using your credit card and b) your spending is controlled.  Now let me ask you this, do you spend money when you want to celebrate something great in your life?  I used to be a compulsive spender, spending money when I was both happy or sad.  Now I only spend money on myself occasionally and never in excess.

After I paid off my debt I was afraid to spend money for a long time because I didn’t want to go back to being broke.  Now I allow myself to spend money occasionally, but within a budget and never on anything I don’t need. That’s the key to emotional spending – keep it in check.

Emotional spending can be controlled

I say that I spend  money emotionally but that’s only partially true because my expenses are always very calculated.  The intent to spend money is based on emotion, but the amount I spend and how I spend it is always based on my budget.

The season is changing so my happy emotional spending came at the perfect time.  I bought basic items I need for fall such as black tights, new black dress pants for work, a new dress for my trip to New Orleans.  In total I only spent $80 and I got absolutely everything I need.  Now that is controlled emotional spending.

How often to you spend money emotionally?

Think about the last time you bought something, anything, was it emotionally initiated?  Did you buy ice cream the last time you were having a bad day?  Did you buy a bottle of win the last time you wanted to drown your sorrows?  Or did you buy yourself a new outfit to celebrate a new job?  The truth is a lot of our spending is emotionally based.

I have to be honest I’m not sure what it is about spending money, but it can be gratifying, consoling and uplifting all at the same time.  I don’t know any other activity that has the same effect on people.  Do you?

How to spend wisely when emotions are involved

The old me would spend money on anything, and I mean absolutely anything from meals to home furnishings just so I would have something to do.  My money and my life were ruled by emotions; but not anymore.

The pain, tears and stress that come with being in debt are heartbreaking.  Now I spend money based on emotions but not as I’m feeling them.  If I have a bad day I go home and wallow, sometimes I eat cookie dough.  I think about how much money I can spend and how much I can afford to spend without feeling guilty.  That’s how I control my emotional spending and I never feel bad about it.

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