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Friday Faves: Netflix and Saturdays

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Good morning Loves and Happy Friday.  I always love Friday mornings because it means tomorrow morning is Saturday.  My boyfriend got me Netflix for Christmas and ever since I have been spending my Saturdays watching movie after movie.  It’s not very productive, but it’s really fun.

I have watched some great movies.  The Rebound starring Catherine Zeta-Jones was really funny and Everybody’s Fine starring Robert De Niro was ball-my-eyes-out sad.  I have also enjoyed watching series from my youth such as Dawson’s Creek.  I really want to get into Mad Men, but I just make that kind of commitment right now.  For less than $10 a month Netflix is absolutely the best purchase we have made all year.

Any movie suggestions for this weekend?

Enjoy these posts from our lovely friends:

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Budget Blonde – I don’t have a boyfriend, but I’m planning my wedding

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Frugal Portland - How to Have a Frugal Wedding Part One: Venue

Blonde on a Budget – My Perfect Day (In 5 years)

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Would you marry someone without money?

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I read an article in a recent issue of Glamour Magazine about a woman who fell in love with a man who had less money than her.  Actually he had no money at all, he had a low paying job with no personal savings.  She met him online and they instantly connected.

After months of communicating by email, phone and chat the couple finally decided to meet in person.  When he showed up to take her out on their first date she was shocked at what she saw in her driveway.

The man showed up in an old pickup truck and the woman almost didn’t walk out of her front door.  She had seen pictures of the man and knew he was cute but she didn’t know he had no money.  The subject of careers and personal finances never came up in their long conversations.

Should money be a criteria for dating?

So here lies the question, would you go out with a man who had no money?  We aren’t talking about a man who makes good money and just mismanages it, because that can be fixed.  We are talking about a man who makes just enough to get by.  She already had feelings for this man and she knew if she went out with him her life would always be hard off financially.  She wasn’t hoping to marry rich, she was just hoping to marry someone who wasn’t poor.

If this was me I don’t know if I would continue a relationship with a man who had no money.  Maybe in my 20s, but probably not now in my 30s.  That sounds really bad as I read it back to myself but it’s true.  If I already loved the man I don’t think money would matter, actually I know it wouldn’t, if I was in my 20s.

When I was younger I was broke, like dead broke, and I know how much stress money can cause.  I wouldn’t want to go through that again.  When you are in your 20s it’s OK to make mistakes and learn from them.  But as we get older we are supposed to be more financially responsible.

If I was dating now I think money would come up in our first few dates.  In my 20s I wouldn’t have cared if my boyfriend had no money.  However, now in my 30s it would be very hard to start a relationship with a man who didn’t have the same lifestyle I have.

Should money be a criteria for marriage?

I wouldn’t expect women to want to marry a man who can make her life better.  However at the same time I don’t think anyone wants to marry a man who makes their life worse.  The trouble with the man having no money was that the woman was already in love with him.

If she didn’t go out on the date she would always wonder if he was the great love of her life. She would always wonder if she let her soul mate get away because he drove an old pickup truck. She decided money wasn’t worth her happiness so she grabbed her purse and walked out to the driveway where the man was waiting with the passenger side door open.

As expected the man was a total gentleman.  After their first date her feelings were as strong as ever.  They eventually got married and were still together when the article was released.

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Do you draw the line at going dutch?

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Good morning Loves. I have a question to ask, would you go out with someone a second time if they didn’t pay for your first date?  My friend Sherri just went out with a guy who not only asked for two checks at dinner but he also made her pay for her own movie ticket.  Sherri said she really liked the man and they had a great time on their date, up until he asked her to pay for her own meal.  When it comes to paying for a date are you old fashioned and want the man to pay or are you new aged and want to go dutch?

Should the man always pay for the first date?

Sherri hasn’t been on a first date in a while.  She didn’t say anything to the man about paying her half of the check because she wasn’t sure if everyone paying for themselves on a date was the new norm.  When it came to the movie she was surprised the man didn’t offer to pay for her ticket.  Actually insulted was the word she used.  So here’s the question, would you be offended if someone didn’t offer to pay for your first date?

I haven’t been on a first date in a long time but I don’t think I would call a man back if he didn’t offer to pay for our first date.  Maybe I’m just old fashioned but if a man asks me out I would assume the night would be his treat.  I might also take it as a sign of my likability if a man didn’t pick up the check on our date. I would think he wasn’t into me because if he did like me he would want to impress me and pay for the meal, right?

Who should pay for the wedding?

When couples get married who should pay for the wedding?  Traditionally the parent’s of the bride pay for the wedding, but maybe both sides of the family should split the bill.  I think that would be fair.  If you are married who paid for your wedding?

If my boyfriend and I were to get married I think our parents (both sides) would offer to cover the costs.  After 15 years of dating our parents would be so happy my boyfriend finally popped the question they would be more than happy to pay for our wedding.

Living happily ever after

When you are married how do you share expenses?  My boyfriend and I live together and we split all living expenses as well as all big purchases right down the middle.  This is probably because our incomes are approximately the same.  If our earnings were drastically different I think we would split our everyday living expenses as a percentage of our income.

If I earned more money than my boyfriend I wouldn’t expect to pay for everything and I wouldn’t expect him to do the same if he earned more money than me.  I am a true believer in people paying their own way.  I think both people in a relationship should contribute equally to a relationship.  But again maybe that’s just me.

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Friday Faves: Being cheap and Second Careers

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Happy Friday.  I am still in a state of bliss after coming back from my trip to Boston.  It’s amazing how a little three day road trip can make the time between the end of winter and the beginning of spring a bit more bearable.

Have a great weekend!

Enjoy these posts from our lovely personal finance friends:

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Careful Cents – Top 10 Apps to Organize and File Your Taxes on the Go

Frugal Beautiful – Frugal Fashion Tips For Spring

Coffee Love Health – Weddings & Work, Oh my!

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