Go shorty, it’s your birthday

3124008232_38625b8114_z (1)Good morning Loves.  This is my last morning as a 33 year old, tomorrow is my birthday and for the first time in four years I’m actually going to celebrate my birthday.   On my 30th birthday my family got into a huge disagreement which turned into the biggest argument I’ve ever been in then escalated into a physical fight.  Needless to say my birthday has never been the same.

This year all that’s in the past,  because this year I am going to enjoy my birthday.  Why? What makes it different this year?  Well after my whole world came crumbling down on my 30th birthday I have never felt the same.  I motioned through my daily life never really feeling anything but sadness.  I slept through the holidays and I wallowed in a ball of my own anger during my birthday.  But not this year.  For the first time in a long time I had a great year and thankfully I’m finally beginning to feel comfortable in my own skin again.   Isn’t that in itself enough of a reason to celebrate?! I definitely think so.

How do you celebrate your birthday?

This year I’m going to  celebrate my birthday by making it all about me because in my opinion I deserve it.  This past year I’ve made a career change, found an amazing new job, moved into a great new apartment and I’ve finally stopped being sad.

I’m going to visit all my favorite stores such as The Body Shop and Sephora to claim my birthday gifts for being a loyal customer.  I’m going to eat dinner at my favorite Mexican restaurant, get my nails done and of course end the day with a chocolate cupcake.  Yes that definitely sounds like a perfect day.

My birthday is a guilt free do whatever you want kind of day.  I’m going to eat cookies for breakfast if I want to and not worry about the calories or malnutrition.  I’m going to buy myself a little something special and I’m going to act totally surprised when I come home to a gorgeous bouquet of flowers from BF.  Although it’s no surprise because he buys me flowers ever year for my birthday.

How do you reflect on your life?

I know some people like to set goals and evaluate their past year on New Year’s Day, but not me, I like to reflect on my past, present and future on my birthday.  Why?  Because I think my birthday is way more special than January 1st.  I set my new goals on my birthday for a few reasons, one: Fall is my favorite season and I don’t really like winter and two: it’s all about me.  I like reflecting on my life on my birthday because it’s less pressure than the whole New Year’s thing and I’m not celebrating with the rest of the world when January rolls around.

My goals usually involve travelling, saving money and buying things for our apartment, but not this year.  This year I only have one goal and that’s to continue working towards total  happiness.  I am going to focus on my appearance, I know it seems selfish and totally materialistic but it’s true.  I am going to work hard, get active and change my eating habits so I can be happy with the way I look.

Is that a weird goal to have?

Photo from Flickr

A step by step guide to moving


Good morning Loves.  Last time we chatted it was moving day and now BF and I are officially moved in to our new apartment.  Over our 15 year relationship we have moved three times and I’m happy to say this time our move was drama free.  We’ve had movers get into a fight and quit during the job, we’ve had movers disappear for two hours without telling us and we’ve had movers hold our television hostage until we paid them.  This time our movers came, told us they were taking a lunch break, came back and finished the job.  It was great.

I have to say moving is a lot of work and no matter how much we tried to plan there are always aspects of moving that are unpredictable.  If you are moving let me make your life a little easier by helping you expect the unexpected.

4 tips for a stress free move

Start packing at least two weeks in advance. I know the thought of living in boxes is unappealing, but planning your move will save you both time and money. Since BF and I only found our apartment one week before we had to move we didn’t have time to properly pack, but I wish we did.  When you take your time to pack you can throw out unwanted items which means you’ll have less boxes.  This saves money on movers because they work by the hour as well as the cost of boxes – if you buy them from U-Haul.  We did the opposite and ravaging through our stuff to throw out unused items is making our unpacking a lot longer.

You have to tip the movers. This was the first time I’ve ever tipped movers and to be honest I didn’t know we were supposed to. One of our movers mentioned it to us during the day so we had to shell out some extra cash.  Our total moving bill was $694 and we had $750 in cash so we gave them a $56 tip.  I’m not sure if that’s generous, but that’s what we gave them.  What do you think?

There are always unexpected costs. We based the actual cost of the movers on our last experience and it worked out well because it was exactly the same price, even though we booked a different moving company.  Other than the actual movers it’s all the extra costs that add up quickly.  We moved into a bigger apartment so we knew there would be extra costs but I had no idea exactly how much they would be.  We spent $136 at Home Depot, $270 at Target and $148 at Wal-Mart.  These were all necessary costs for functional items in our new apartment such as garbage cans and laundry supplies (because now we have our own washer and dryer), none of them were esthetic.

Decorating should be the last thing on your mind. I wish I could snap my fingers and all my boxes would be unpacked, my couch would be full of colourful pillows, all my vases would be full of beautiful fresh flowers and my paintings would be hung on the walls. But unfortunately this is not my reality.  BF and I both have full time jobs so right now we are just focusing on getting our boxes cleared away.  Then we’ll place everything exactly where we want it, this will also give us an idea of what other furniture we need to buy and finally we’ll decorate – but that’s a three step long term plan.

Photo from Flickr

Friday Faves: We are moved in


(This is the Riverwalk in New Orleans.  P.S. it’s not where we moved)

Good morning Loves.  It’s Friday and BF and I are officially moved into our new apartment, pictures coming soon.  We’re neck high in boxes and I would really like to get as much unpacked as quickly as we can so we can get out and enjoy our new neighborhood as soon as possible.

Enjoy these posts from our personal finance friends:

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Happy October 1st. I love fall.


Good morning Loves and Happy October 1st.  As you read this BF and I are moving into our new apartment.  Yes the big day is finally here and I’m so excited.  I can’t wait to unpack, get settled in and start decorating – with the help of Pinterest of course, flashback to Monday’s post.  I want to get the boxes cleared out and start enjoying our new space – after all we have more than double the space from our old apartment.

Now enough about me and my big day, let’s get back to today.  It’s the first day of October and although it’s not officially the first day of fall this is when I consider the fall season to be in full swing.  I absolutely love fall, it’s by far my favorite season.  Everything from the smell of the season change to the brisk air and warm sunshine.  Yes it’s safe to say that I for one am definitely glad fall has finally arrived.

5 reasons why I love fall:

1. The new TV lineup.  I know this may sound silly but I really really love watching TV.  All my favorite shows come back on air with the new fall schedule and I even fall in love with some new shows.  Right now I’m happy to be watching Survivor and The Good Wife.  I am also crushing on a few new shows such as How To Get Away With Murder and Gotham (but that may be because it stars Ryan Atwood from The O.C.).

2. Fall fashions.  I could live in boots all year round if it wasn’t so hot in the summer and so cold in the winter.  When I unpack in our new closet (by the way it’s a walk in) I will put my fall wardrobe at the forefront.  This includes my trendy (not wool) scarves, boots, tights and light sweaters.  I wish it didn’t get so cold in the snowy North East because I would love to wear sweaters and leather jackets for more than just a couple months before we switch to goose down coats, mittens and wool hats.  But I guess if I want to live in a different climate I need to move.

3. My Birthday.  Next Thursday is my birthday, in 8 days I will be 34 years old.  I have to admit this year was pretty awesome so I’m excited to see what the next year has to bring.  Usually this time of year I start planning everything I want to do, all the places I want to go and all the things I want to accomplish over the next year; but with our move I can’t think about anything other than pillows, bedrooms and bath mats.  I decided next year I am only going to have one goal – get fit and be happy with who I am.

4. Travelling is cheap.  I usually like to take a weekend trip at the beginning and at the end of fall because it’s the perfect time to travel.  Peak season is over, the weather is still warm enough to be outside and prices drop real low.

5. The colors are gorgeous.  I could walk around all day during fall because the city is just so gorgeous.  The colors of fall landscapes are a major reason why I love to take road trips during the fall.  I find that gazing out the window at orange and red leaves makes the time fly by.

What do you love about fall?