How to Spend Valentine’s Day with Your Single Friends

Spend Valentine's Day

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner love is in the air.  Your coupled friends may be planning what they’re going to do, what they’re going to wear and who they’re going to spend the most romantic day of the year with.  Their heads may be filled with boxes of chocolate, candlelit dinners and romantic evenings.  However if you’re single Valentine’s Day is a whole other story.

For some this day of cupids and candy is just a reminder that you’re alone.  You know what I say, THAT’S O.K.  Spending Valentine’s Day alone is better than spending it with someone you may not even like, let alone love.  You know what’s even better than that?  Spending Valentine’s Day having fun with your single friends.

If you and your friends are flying solo this February 14 here are 9 ways to have fun on Valentine’s Day:

Scary movie marathon

I’m not sure why but Valentine’s Day brings out the horror flicks, but this time of year there always seems to be one or two playing in theatres.  This year The Boy and The Forrest seem to be equally terrifying, although neither one has to do with love.

Weekend road trip

It’s inevitable that no matter where you go this weekend you’re bound to be surrounded by happy couples.  Could you think of a better time to take a weekend road trip with friends?  At least if you’re in a different city there’s no chance of running into any past lovers.

Watch the NBA All Star game

For all the sports fans out there the NBA All Star weekend is once again taking place at the same time as Valentine’s Day.  If you love sports then put on your fan gear, order some food and enjoy three days of basketball festivities.

Lots and lots of chocolate

They say that chocolate makes you feel happy so if you’re sad (or celebrating) because you’re alone this Valentine’s Day why not indulge in chocolate to make yourself feel better.  I can’t think of a better time to splurge on some sweet treats than right now.

Stay off the internet

The one thing you should absolutely not do on Valentine’s Day is surf the internet.  You’ll end up spending money and buying things you don’t need to just to pass the time and that’s not good for your bottom line.  Or worse, you’ll end up on a random dating site looking for Mr. (or Mrs.) Right.  Or even worse, you’ll stalk your ex on Instagram or Facebook.  Just say no.

Cry at romantic movies

If you are in fact sad this Valentine’s Day then let yourself be sad.  I’ve learned that it’s not good to keep feelings inside.  So let them out at home on your couch with your favorite romantic movies.  Titanic, You’ve Got Mail and Burlesque are some of my faves.

Dance the night away

What could be more fun than getting all dressed up and going out dancing with your friends.  Dancing is a great way to relieve stress, burn some calories and have fun at the same time.  Thankfully Valentine’s Day is actually on Sunday this year so hopefully clubs won’t be crowded with lovebirds all up in your space.

Stay in with cocktails

Have you ever wanted to be a bartender?  Now’s the perfect time to get your drink on.  Plan a night in with your friends, mix some drinks, listen to good music and make it a sleepover to ensure everyone stays safe.  It’s also nice to have someone (i.e. your friends) to wake up with in the morning and have breakfast.

Manicures and pedicures

Spoil yourself with a beauty day at the spa.  Feeling good about yourself is a must, so go and get all dolled up with a manicure and pedicure.  This is especially a nice treat if you don’t spoil yourself often.  Dip into your fun money on Valentine’s Day and enjoy it.

How are you planning to spend Valentine’s Day?

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4 Financial Habits That Can Harm Your Relationship

It’s been said that money can harm your relationship.  I honestly believe that’s true, but only if you let it.  BF and I have lived through a financial rollercoaster: we met as broke teenagers, graduated into two full time jobs, almost lost everything (including my job) during the market crash and spent years rebuilding our life, relationship and our financial wellbeing.

I know that everything we’ve been through made me the strong, financially responsible person I am today.  So I have no regrets.  However, I wouldn’t want to go through it again.  I especially wouldn’t want to go through it with a new relationship.  BF and I already had several years invested in our relationship when the money troubles started and we chose not to let our financial struggles ruin our relationship – and neither should you.

Don’t let these money struggles put a strain on your relationship, all you need to do is work through them.

Too much debt

Having debt can be stressful, but it doesn’t have to put a huge strain on your relationship.  The one thing people seem to forget is that is temporary.

Do what you need to do to start making payments and become debt free, that could be getting a second job or cutting your living expenses. Do whatever it takes, trust me the temporary hard work is better than the long term stress of having debt.

Wedding blues

The last thing you want to do is start your happily ever after with a lot of debt from a wedding that you can’t afford.  Do you really want to start your life as a couple by coming home every night to “We should have just ordered the chicken” or “Couldn’t we have purchased less flowers”?  I don’t think so.

Plan a realistic wedding that you can afford.  This may mean prolonging the big day so you can save up some extra cash or cutting back on some lavish expenses such as making your own wedding invitations and centerpieces or choosing the second best venue.

Keeping money secrets

It’s no secret that when you don’t have open communication your relationship will suffer and this is especially true when it comes to money.  Don’t be mad at your spouse for not being open with you.  Ask yourself why it’s happening.  Why aren’t they comfortable talking to you about money?  Maybe it’s because they’re ashamed, but maybe it’s because you’re a little scary when it comes to having the money talk.

Ignoring your problems

The worst thing you can do in a relationship when it comes to money is ignoring that fact that there is a problem.  This is true whether you’re single or in a relationship.  Ignoring the problem isn’t helping fix it.

One of the great things about being married is you have a partner to rely on in sickness and in health and for richer or poorer. If you feel things are getting out of control with your spending and debt talk to your partner and ask for help.  The conversation may be uncomfortable, but it will be better for your relationship in the long run.

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How to Get Over the Winter Blues

Sad dog

Does your money have the post-holiday blues?  If you’re money situation is a little bit sad in the New Year it’s time to take the steps to change your habits to get out of the funk.  January is a tough time of the year: it’s cold, it’s grey and we spend most of the time inside.

On top of that your credit cards may be maxed out or have high balances and your savings account may be drained.  There’s no time like the present to kick your financial habits into a new gear.

Get over the winter blues with these easy money tips:

Learn a new hobby that saves you money

The New Year is time for a new beginning.  Learning a new hobby is fun and it can save you money at the same time. If you spend a lot of money on eating out then take up a new hobby this year such as cooking.  Eating in even three times a week can help save money.  That extra cash in your pocket can be used to pay down debt or to start building up your savings account.

Check your credit score to see the damage

Even though your financial situation may not be ideal, it may not be as bad as you think.  Before you panic about your overspending during the holidays check your credit score to see if the damage is as bad as you think it is.  You can get your FREE Credit Score from Credit Sesame.  Once you know your exact financial state you can make a plan to start making it better.

Stop talking about it and start making payments

Holiday debt won’t get paid off until you start making payments.  So often we like to dwell on how unpleasant a situation is because that’s easier than actually doing the work to improve the financial mess.  Today is the day to stop talking about your less than perfect financial situation and start doing something about it.  Start making payments, like now.

Set up automatic payments

The only way I know to save and pay off debt is by setting up automatic payments.  If money is in my account I am most likely going to spend it.  So to avoid the temptation to spend money on things I don’t need I set up automatic payments that coincide with my pay.

Every two weeks I have automatic transfers that go into my short term and retirement savings as well as pay off my outstanding debts.  This way everything gets paid and saved on time and I don’t have to worry about it.

Start planning for next year

Avoid putting yourself through this same stress next year by planning ahead.  Instead of using credit and making payments to pay it off start saving now.  Putting $50 per month into savings over the next 10 months will add up to $500 for your holiday shopping.  That’s much better than paying off debt while it’s accumulating interest.

Planning ahead also helps you set a spending limit.  If you have $500 saved then you can only spend $500 during the holidays.  The option to spend with credit cards can be a big temptation.  Saving cash instead of using credit during the holidays can help keep your finances in order.

How do you plan for holiday shopping?

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New Year, New Budget

Cut spending

Improving your financial situation is one of the most common New Year’s resolutions.  Why is that?  As a financial planner I think it’s because people always feel they can improve their financial situation.  We can always spend less and save more.  I also think it’s because people like to keep up with the Joneses, even if they can’t afford it.  Do you think that’s true?

If you want to make changes with your money in the New Year it all starts with a budget.  You can’t save for retirement until you find room in your monthly expenses to save.  You can’t afford to go on a dream vacation until you pay off your credit card debt and you can’t pay off your debt until you free up (or make more) disposable income.  That’s just how it goes.

The budget is the be all and end all of everything related to money.  If you want to achieve your money goals this year start with a budget.

How to set a budget

Some people think that setting a budget means spending the money you have until there’s nothing less.  I used to be one of those people.  I would get paid, buy what I need to live, spend money how I wanted and then wait for the next payday.  Now I’ve come to realize setting a budget is much more than that.

Setting a budget is about spending what you want to not what you can afford.  Just because I can afford something doesn’t mean I should buy it.  Setting a budget is about setting limitations.  Ask yourself, how much do I want to spend on cable not how much can I afford to pay for the cable package.

It’s always easier to set a budget in percentages: saving, living expenses and fun money.

Keeping on track

If you have money goals you want to achieve you need to have a budget, otherwise your money life will be chaotic because that’s what life without planning is…it’s chaos.

Living on a budget is not easy.  However it’s necessary to live within your means and avoid debt.  Out of control spending leads to bad money situations, so set a budget and track your spending to make sure that doesn’t happen.

Using a budget software such as Mint or You Need a Budget can help track where, how and when you spend your money.  If you’re overspending in one you’ll need to cut back somewhere else to stay on budget that money.  Then the next month you’ll need to make a conscious effort to spend more responsibly.

Reward yourself in the short term

If budgeting was easy everyone would do it.  It’s not easy, but it’s a lot easier than trying to pay off a truck load of debt.  It takes time to change money habits and although you should keep your eye on the bigger picture it’s good motivation to reward yourself in the short term.

I like to give myself $100 fun money every three months to reward myself for good behavior.  $100 is an amount I can afford to spend and for that one day it lets me loosen the wallet strings.  It also gives me something to look forward to which is important when working towards a goal or giving yourself restrictions.

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