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Are we always looking for something better?

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Good morning Loves.  I want to know how many of us are looking for something better in our lives.  Whether it’s your home, your job, your spouse or your lifestyle, I think we are always looking for something better.

Maybe it’s just human nature to always want more

Some of us have the perfect job yet we keep looking at the classifieds.  Some of us are in a happy relationship but we still may have a wandering eye.  Some of us love coming home every night but we still read the real estate section in the Saturday newspaper.  Why is that?  Some of us claim to be happy, but is that really true?

It’s just human nature to want to have more, have something better and have nicer things.  Although I’m not sure why.   Maybe you are one of those people who can’t let money sit in your bank account because you get the urge to spend it.   Maybe you work hard to save money because you always want to see your account balances grow.  Either way when is enough enough?

A personal quest with no final destination

I’m not sure anyone can truly be satisfied with everything in their life because if they were people wouldn’t sell their home, apply for a promotion and get divorced.  Isn’t that what life’s all about – searching for more?

So where does it end?  Is the quest for human happiness when it comes to materialistic goods never ending?  Sit down and ask yourself  when is your house big enough?  When is your car nice enough? and when is your wardrobe stylish enough?

Upgrading where you live

My boyfriend and I moved to our apartment six years ago and it was supposed to be a temporary situation.  We know that we want a bigger living space, but yet we don’t move.  Sometimes laziness takes over from ambition and people stop looking for their something better even though they want it.

This year we are definitely moving.  We are packing up our bags and moving to our happily ever after.  But we have to remember that happiness comes with a price.  A bigger apartment in a better neighbourhood means more expensive rent.  I guess that’s a price we are willing to pay.

Should we search for happiness or should we just compromise?

I have a job that I love, but I can’t help but wonder if there is something better out there.  Maybe there is a job with better benefits, in a better city or in a better city.  Yes maybe that’s true, actually I’m sure it’s true.  But do I really want to start over again?  No not really.   I have come to realize over the last year that our lives don’t have to be perfect, at one point they just have to be good enough.

I definitely don’t want to wake up every morning and be unhappy and thankfully I’m not.  I am not living my dream life, but it’s good enough to afford the lifestyle I want to have.  That’s OK with me.

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Friday Faves: Netflix and Saturdays

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Good morning Loves and Happy Friday.  I always love Friday mornings because it means tomorrow morning is Saturday.  My boyfriend got me Netflix for Christmas and ever since I have been spending my Saturdays watching movie after movie.  It’s not very productive, but it’s really fun.

I have watched some great movies.  The Rebound starring Catherine Zeta-Jones was really funny and Everybody’s Fine starring Robert De Niro was ball-my-eyes-out sad.  I have also enjoyed watching series from my youth such as Dawson’s Creek.  I really want to get into Mad Men, but I just make that kind of commitment right now.  For less than $10 a month Netflix is absolutely the best purchase we have made all year.

Any movie suggestions for this weekend?

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Would you marry someone without money?

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I read an article in a recent issue of Glamour Magazine about a woman who fell in love with a man who had less money than her.  Actually he had no money at all, he had a low paying job with no personal savings.  She met him online and they instantly connected.

After months of communicating by email, phone and chat the couple finally decided to meet in person.  When he showed up to take her out on their first date she was shocked at what she saw in her driveway.

The man showed up in an old pickup truck and the woman almost didn’t walk out of her front door.  She had seen pictures of the man and knew he was cute but she didn’t know he had no money.  The subject of careers and personal finances never came up in their long conversations.

Should money be a criteria for dating?

So here lies the question, would you go out with a man who had no money?  We aren’t talking about a man who makes good money and just mismanages it, because that can be fixed.  We are talking about a man who makes just enough to get by.  She already had feelings for this man and she knew if she went out with him her life would always be hard off financially.  She wasn’t hoping to marry rich, she was just hoping to marry someone who wasn’t poor.

If this was me I don’t know if I would continue a relationship with a man who had no money.  Maybe in my 20s, but probably not now in my 30s.  That sounds really bad as I read it back to myself but it’s true.  If I already loved the man I don’t think money would matter, actually I know it wouldn’t, if I was in my 20s.

When I was younger I was broke, like dead broke, and I know how much stress money can cause.  I wouldn’t want to go through that again.  When you are in your 20s it’s OK to make mistakes and learn from them.  But as we get older we are supposed to be more financially responsible.

If I was dating now I think money would come up in our first few dates.  In my 20s I wouldn’t have cared if my boyfriend had no money.  However, now in my 30s it would be very hard to start a relationship with a man who didn’t have the same lifestyle I have.

Should money be a criteria for marriage?

I wouldn’t expect women to want to marry a man who can make her life better.  However at the same time I don’t think anyone wants to marry a man who makes their life worse.  The trouble with the man having no money was that the woman was already in love with him.

If she didn’t go out on the date she would always wonder if he was the great love of her life. She would always wonder if she let her soul mate get away because he drove an old pickup truck. She decided money wasn’t worth her happiness so she grabbed her purse and walked out to the driveway where the man was waiting with the passenger side door open.

As expected the man was a total gentleman.  After their first date her feelings were as strong as ever.  They eventually got married and were still together when the article was released.

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Do you draw the line at going dutch?

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Good morning Loves. I have a question to ask, would you go out with someone a second time if they didn’t pay for your first date?  My friend Sherri just went out with a guy who not only asked for two checks at dinner but he also made her pay for her own movie ticket.  Sherri said she really liked the man and they had a great time on their date, up until he asked her to pay for her own meal.  When it comes to paying for a date are you old fashioned and want the man to pay or are you new aged and want to go dutch?

Should the man always pay for the first date?

Sherri hasn’t been on a first date in a while.  She didn’t say anything to the man about paying her half of the check because she wasn’t sure if everyone paying for themselves on a date was the new norm.  When it came to the movie she was surprised the man didn’t offer to pay for her ticket.  Actually insulted was the word she used.  So here’s the question, would you be offended if someone didn’t offer to pay for your first date?

I haven’t been on a first date in a long time but I don’t think I would call a man back if he didn’t offer to pay for our first date.  Maybe I’m just old fashioned but if a man asks me out I would assume the night would be his treat.  I might also take it as a sign of my likability if a man didn’t pick up the check on our date. I would think he wasn’t into me because if he did like me he would want to impress me and pay for the meal, right?

Who should pay for the wedding?

When couples get married who should pay for the wedding?  Traditionally the parent’s of the bride pay for the wedding, but maybe both sides of the family should split the bill.  I think that would be fair.  If you are married who paid for your wedding?

If my boyfriend and I were to get married I think our parents (both sides) would offer to cover the costs.  After 15 years of dating our parents would be so happy my boyfriend finally popped the question they would be more than happy to pay for our wedding.

Living happily ever after

When you are married how do you share expenses?  My boyfriend and I live together and we split all living expenses as well as all big purchases right down the middle.  This is probably because our incomes are approximately the same.  If our earnings were drastically different I think we would split our everyday living expenses as a percentage of our income.

If I earned more money than my boyfriend I wouldn’t expect to pay for everything and I wouldn’t expect him to do the same if he earned more money than me.  I am a true believer in people paying their own way.  I think both people in a relationship should contribute equally to a relationship.  But again maybe that’s just me.

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