Turns out, I AM a huge Bridezilla.
Even after the nice comments you all left on my last post about how I’m not a Bridezilla, I recently pulled a total Bridezilla move on my Mom – the one person who loves me more than anything in the whole world. EPIC FAIL by me.
I’m sure you all have noticed that I’m a pretty confident, self-assured gal. I’m very assertive in my opinions and views and while that’s usually an strong quality in someone, I’ve been known to take things too far sometimes. I recently received a huge dose of reality when I realized that things I do and say can REALLY REALLY hurt others – including those that mean the most to me. I’ve pretty much always known this about myself, but feel like my latest Bridezilla move finally made everything clear to me.
Anyways, I’ve been beating myself up over this (and, trust me, it’s well-deserved) and trying to figure out how I can rectify the situation. I’ve already said my many apologies and I’m pretty sure my mom has already forgiven me, but I feel like I need to do more to show my awesome Mom just how sorry I am and also take the time to build and strengthen our relationship. Mom lives about 30 minutes away from me and sometimes we’ll go months without seeing each other – NOT COOL!
I finally realized that I need to start showing my mom some regular appreciation and spending more quality time with her. This really should have dawned on me a long time ago, but sometimes you need a huge event to put things in perspective, ya know?
So, henceforth, I’m implementing Monthly Mom Appreciation Night (kinda funny that the acronym ends up being MMAN…he he). MMAN is simple – once a month, I’ll make an effort to treat my mom and have fun with her. Whether it’s going to see the latest Twilight film, getting pedicures (Mom loves a good pedi!), getting Mexican for dinner, going shopping, or just hanging out and doing the girl talk thing. I plan to budget about $50 per month for MMAN. I’m sure some months will be less than others and there will be some busy months where we can’t get together at all.
Fifty bones a month may seem like a lot, but it’s really not. When you think about all the things our moms have done for us – like carry us around for nine months, go through labor, love us, teach us, cook for us, put up with our Bridezilla tantrums, make us laugh, pay for our college tuition, attend every single one of our dance team performances, console us, and pass down their brilliance, charm, common sense, and uber-good looks – it’s really not that much at all. I should probably spend the rest of my life trying to pay back my mom for all the good she’s done for me. I would not be the successful, confident woman that I am today without my mom.
The first official MMAN will actually be a day – coming up in about 3 weeks. My wedding dress is in (which my mom helped me pick out!)! So, we’re going to go do the whole try-on the dress thing, get lunch (my treat), and do a little shopping for wedding decor. I can’t wait!
Love you, Mom!
Do you make time to show your appreciation to your Mom and/or treat her every now and then?