I’ve been thinking about a comment a reader made on my Happier at Home review a while back. I mentioned that although I loved Gretchen Rubin’s decision to create holiday traditions for her family, it didn’t seem very applicable to me and The Hubby right now as it’s currently just the two of us.
Reader Rae commented:
Like you, I have few uses for the children-centered topics in these books. But the one thing we should take from them is the value of creating rituals.
Especially around the holidays Jamie and I have created many rituals over the years. When we lived in Southern California we went to Six Flags Magic Mountain every Christmas Eve. The park is open and empty. We’d ride every single roller coaster, some of them twice, and be done in less than 3 hours.
Then we’d stay the night at the Hyatt and enjoyed the fabulous Christmas Eve buffet.
This type of ritual stops when the kids come, but can be looked back upon when infant duty (doody?) finally arrives.
Are you and hubby and BD and LD creating any rituals?
In addition to giggling at her doody joke (yeah, clearly I’m not mature enough to be a parent yet!), and loving the fact that she gave Big Dog and Little Dog acronyms, Rae made a great point that made me look at things differently.
I’d been focusing on the kinds of traditions I wanted to pass down to our kids when we have them, not thinking that The Hubby and I should create some traditions of our own, just for the two of us, while it is still the two of us.
What we’ve got so far
So, since I’ve determined to focus on merry, festive things this holiday season, I decided to take stock of the traditions we’ve already created in the years we’ve been together. I was surprised to realize we actually have quite a few:
- The Hubby’s family is Polish/German, and he introduced me to the tradition of “hiding the pickle” every year. (I know…It sounds scandalous, but check out the link.) So for our first Christmas living together, I got him a glass pickle ornament which we take turns hiding each year. Since that means the other person has a 100% chance of finding it, it’s not quite the way it’s supposed to go, but it’s still fun. And when we have kids, I’m sure they’ll get a kick out of it.
- We always, always watch Elf when we decorate the Christmas tree. It never fails to put us both in the Christmas spirit. (“You sit on a throne of lies!”)
- We fill each other’s stockings with silly, Dollar Store items…the sillier the better. As great as The Hubby is at getting me wonderful presents, I have to say secretly I kind of like the stocking opening better.
- The Hubby always, always insists we open our presents at 12:01 a.m. Christmas morning, which we do in our PJs with a warm mug of something yummy. (This midnight tradition will not be carried on when young children are involved.)
- Big Dog and Little Dog are, of course, in on the action with their own gifts. Little Dog has more fun tearing the wrapping paper off (of course I wrap them!), while BD usually just waits for LD to come open his present for him. (At which point he usually trots off with LD’s present. Eventually they straighten things out.)
What traditions have your family (with children, or just the two of you) developed?
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