I promise you’ll get a review of Happier at Home soon. I’m nearly done with it!
In the meantime, this post is inspired by one of Gretchen Rubin’s mantras from the original Happiness Project, which I’ve been reminded of as I read Happier at Home:
What this means is that when you’re working on increasing your own happiness and making your life better, you need to be in tune with who you really are and what you really like. Gretchen knows that mediation is something tons of people recommend for boosting happiness, for instance, but she just isn’t interested in it, so she doesn’t pursue it. She has a secret love for children’s books, on the other hand, so rather than feeling like she ought to be reading more serious, grownup stuff, she starts a children’s book reading group…and she loves it!
This idea really applies to balance, too. How can you find balance…in your life, in your finances, in your relationships…unless you know what makes you happy and what you need to feel contented and fulfilled?
Recognize your own personal truths
Gretchen (I promise I’ll stop talking about her after this!) gets very in touch with the things that make her Gretchen: She needs to get enough rest and not get too hungry to keep her spirits up. She’s more of a homebody than a traveler. The things that make other people happy will not necessarily make her happy (and that’s OK!)
I think so many of us have trouble finding true balance in our lives because we’re not recognizing our own personal truths. We’re trying to find balance the way the experts are telling us to…the way we read in some book…the way our friends are doing it and they swear it’s helping them. But we need to understand the things that make us us in order to ever find the right balance that makes us happy.
My personal truths
For instance, here are a few things about me that I’ve come to realize are essential for my own personal balance:
- I hate exercising for the sake of exercising…running, going to the gym, even doing yoga (which I know is relaxing for lots of people, just not my thing). I need my exercise to be fun (Zumba, rollerblading with the pups, etc.) or else I just can’t get into it.
- I am a worrywart. That’s not something I can turn off, although I’m trying to learn to be better about it. So in order to combat my worrying, I need to do things like plan ahead and keep my house in order to keep myself from becoming too stressed out.
- I like doing simple things for fun: date nights every Saturday with The Hubby, meeting my friends for coffee or drinks, hanging out with the pups in the backyard on a lazy summer afternoon. That’s not to say I don’t like adventure and surprises to a certain extent, but I’m never going to live a life full of skydiving and globetrotting. I think it’s great that some people do, but that’s just not my personality.
- I, like Gretchen (OK, mentioned her one more time!), need my sleep. No, that’s a lie…I LOVE my sleep. If The Hubby didn’t give me the “aren’t you ashamed of yourself” look when I try sleeping 13 hours on a Saturday, I would do it every weekend. I believe that napping can reset my body and my mind when I’m feeling off, that it can help me get perspective if I’m stressing out about something, and also that I feel a million times better if I take a quick nap instead of trying to “push through” feeling groggy. I’ve always felt kind of guilty about this, but you know what? It’s part of being Em. It brings me balance, in a very tangible way. So I should embrace that.
What personal truths do you need to recognize before you can find true balance?
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