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Creating A Daily Routine

Gretchen Rubin says it best in her book The Happiness Project: “Outer order brings inner calm.”

One of my goals for 2011 was to find a routine.  Not like a dance routine (I already found one of those), but like a daily, ordered routine.  Basically following a schedule instead of rushing around like a crazy person.  I thrive on a structured, ordered life and my husband and I both felt like our lives were a bit out of order (or … out of balance?) during the wedding planning.  Since we returned  from our honeymoon, it’s funny how easy its been for us to create a routine and maintain outer order.

When you have a major life event on the horizon and you don’t have much time for yourself, life starts to get a little crazy.  These are typically the types of things that happen (taken from personal experience):

  • wanting to use all your down time to relax because you have so little of it
  • not getting chores like grocery shopping done because you want to spend free time relaxing
  • rushing … constantly
  • waking up late
  • not having enough time for people … especially those you want to make time for
  • not cooking at home because we were always out of groceries (see bullet #2)

But everyone is busy.  I know that.  Everyone is busy in their own way and it’s relative to each individual situation.

Still, my husband and I both vowed that we would get our lives in order and get back to a routine once the wedding was over.

And we have.

And we’re much happier.

Here’s how our routine and life order has improved recently:

  • Getting up earlier.  For some reason, I struggled to get out of bed when I always stressed from the wedding.  Now, I’ve been popping out of bed in the mornings.  It’s a great feeling.
  • Going for morning workouts.  It’s nice to get up early enough to actually get your workout in before work so your entire evening is free.  Remember how I said I wanted to be a morning exerciser?  I’m starting to get there.
  • Getting off at a reasonable time.  Both of our offices have flexible schedules (which I’ve mentioned can be more of a curse than a blessing) and when you sleep late, you get in late, and you get off late.  With this routine, sleep and work eat up most of your day.
  • Cooking.  This is a new routine for us.  When I get home from work, I’ll start cooking.  (Even though I don’t really love to cook, I’m still pretty good at it.)  It’s nice to have a home-cooked healthy meal almost every week night.
  • Cleaning.  This is the best part of our new routine:  When I cook, G does ALL the cleaning!  It makes me a happy little wife.  So, I come home, cook, feast and then relax.  :)
  • Free Time.  And then there are 2 or 3 precious hours after dinner that are spent however we like.  It’s glorious.  We’ll usually read.  Or watch Family Guy.  Or G will try to turn on Intervention on A&E and I’ll tell him that show makes me sad so we can’t watch it and a remote control war will ensue.  That also happens when he turns it to sports.  Sometimes we’ll take a walk.  Sometimes we’ll have a happy hour with friends.  Sometimes I’ll work on blog stuff or tweet or Facebook.  The best part is that we have free time now because we’ve settled into a routine and we’re not rushing around constantly.  Gosh, I love that the wedding is over.

Back in college, I probably would have thought this routine was mega-boring.  But, today I love it.  Our routine has brought G and I much happiness.  Gretchen Rubin is right.  Outer order really does bring inner calm.

I think this means that I can scratch one more goal off my list for 2011.  Find a routine.  CHECK.

I’m planning to get together a blog post that includes tips for getting into a good routine.  What are your best tips for getting into a daily routine?

Becoming a Morning Exerciser

I generally work out right after work.  Sometimes, like when I have dinner plans or a happy hour set up right after work, I’ll get up earlier to work out that morning.  The morning workouts never catch on because it’s hard enough for me to get up and go to work as it is.  However, on those rare occasions that I do work out in the morning, I feel a lot better during the day – not only physically, but I’m also happy that my workout is over with and I get to enjoy my entire evening.

Since the start of the year, I’ve been making an effort to exercise in the morning.  I don’t plan to make the change over night and I know I’ll still work out in the evenings on some occasions (like when I’ve had a late night the night before or if there is a class I want to take … orrr if I’m lazy and don’t get out of bed in time).

These are the main reasons I want to get into the routine of working out in the morning:

  • My evenings are free to do whatever I’d like (social stuff, blog stuff, wedding stuff, fun stuff with G, etc.)
  • It establishes a good routine (my work schedule is flexible – it’s great, but it doesn’t provide a good routine)
  • Get it over with early (I enjoy working out, but there are those days when I’m not feeling it after work).
  • Less likely to skip a workout (my relationship with exercise ebbs and flows and I think morning exercise would help)
  • The gym is mine (the gym is MUCH less crowded in the mornings before work – I despise a crowded gym)
  • No rushing (I don’t like it when my days feel rushed – getting into a routine and checking off exercise first might help)
  • Promotes being more active (with free evenings, especially in the summer, I can go on walks, play tennis, go swimming, etc. – when I work out in the evening, I generally don’t do these things)
  • Sets the tone for the day (I do feel like starting the day in a healthful way sets a tone for being healthy the rest of the day; translation: I’ll put down the fried food and pick up a clean salad so that I don’t waste my workout)
  • Sets your Circadian Rhythm?  (at least according to this article)
  • Get more out of the day (if I get up early to work out, I’ll get off earlier, so I’ll have more time to enjoy the good life)

I’m sure there are tons of other benefits that I’m missing (share yours in the comments … I’ll use them for motivation ;) ) and exercising in the morning would benefit everyone differently, but these are my main reasons for my desire to work out in the morning.  Now here are the obstacles:

Sleep.  I was ALWAYS that girl at the slumber party that was the last one awake.  Even after everyone laid down to go to sleep, I’d be the last one with my eye’s open, twiddling my thumbs while I listened to everyone’s slowing cadence of breaths.  It still takes me a long time to fall asleep.  About 50% of the time, it takes me 30 minutes to an hour to fall asleep.  About 10% of the time, it takes more than an hour.  The other 40% of the time are those glorious nights when I fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow.  I usually have trouble falling asleep on the nights that I start worrying about the next day or my to-do list.  I do not think having a flexible work schedule helps sleep issues – sure, you can sleep longer if you had trouble falling asleep the night before, but that jacks up your routine even more.  My number one obstacle for working out in the morning will be sleep issues.

Energy.  Although this could be directly associated with sleep, sometimes it’s not.  Sometimes it’s just damn hard to get out of bed before the crack of dawn no matter how much sleep you get.  The likelihood of getting to the gym in the morning really starts to dwindle when I start picturing myself at the gym, torturing myself on the “dreadmill”.

Weather.  Sometimes it’s below zero degrees in the morning.  Sometimes it’s snowy and icy.  Sometimes it’s a blizzard.  I live in an apartment.  I don’t have a garage.  I’m a firm believer that when you torture yourself for exercise, you’ll end up hating it.  I don’t plan on going to the gym in the morning on those awfully cold days (at least until I have a house with a garage where I can warm up my car while I’m getting dressed).

Life.  Stuff happens.  Right now, I have marriage classes and other church classes (I’m a sponsor for a Catholic-in-training) two nights a week.  Sometimes those classes get out late.  Sometimes I have happy hours with the girls and get home late.  Sometimes we have a birthday party or a family dinner and we’ll get home late.  Hopefully I’ll still be able to coax myself out of bed the next morning to hit the gym, but there will be times that I don’t.  This is where having a routine helps, too.  Once I get into a fairly consistent routine of working out in the morning, a couple late nights shouldn’t be enough to take out my entire regime.

I don’t like rigid regimes.  While I’d like to start working out in the morning the majority of the time, I know that there will be times when I can’t, when I won’t.  That’s okay.  The gym will always be there that evening (it better be, I’m paying good money for that place).

For me, the benefits of becoming a morning exerciser greatly outweigh the cons.  I know it takes time to get into a routine, but this is one that I’d like to focus on this year.  I don’t expect it to happen over night and I do expect many slip-ups.  I figure being realistic about this goal and accepting that it will take time (maybe even years!) will make it that much more attainable.

Do you prefer to work out in the morning or in the evening?  Why?