How to Not Let Money Ruin Your Relationship

Let Money Ruin Your Relationship

Money can be a source of stress in your relationship, but it can only cause trouble if you let it.  There’s no need to let money ruin your relationship.  All you have to do is spot the signs, be open about it and work through it together.  Trust me I know.

I have had my share of money troubles which of course caused trouble in my relationship because the stress of money is like no other and it consumes you.  If you aren’t so great with managing money or if your spouse has a less than perfect financial track record here are five ways to work through it.

Spot the warning signs

Money is everywhere and although some people can hide their troubles very well, it’s hard to keep money woes a secret.  If your spouse stresses every time the rent is due or suggests you always stay in instead of having a date night out on the town then maybe they are running their check book in the red.

Drop subtle hints such as “Do you want me to get this one?” or “Is everything O.K. did you have a big expense this month?”  Their reaction will tell you everything i.e. if it’s recent or if the situation has been ongoing.

Talk about it

Financial trouble is not one of those problems that just works its itself out.  We have to work at it.  The great thing about being in a relationship is that you don’t have to do it alone.  Talk with your spouse about being in debt and they can help change your habits.

If you don’t want to talk with them about it at least keep them up to date on your progress if you’re talking to a professional.  Remember that when you’re in a couple your money doesn’t only affect you.

Don’t fight about it

The absolute worst thing you can do when someone is experiencing financial troubles is argue about it.  I can tell you first hand that not being responsible enough to manage your own money and pay for your living expenses is a big blow to the ego and fighting about it only makes it worse.

Let the situation cool off and talk about how you can change habits or get help at a time when you’re both calm.  Making someone – especially someone you love – feel bad about their bank account is not the way to fix the problem.

Be generous with your own money

Money troubles are a temporary situation if you want them to be.  If your spouse is working towards cleaning up their finances be a little bit more generous when it comes to joint expenses until they get back on their feet.

I am by no means suggesting that one person covers all the expenses because you don’t want to set a precedent.  You can’t always take care of the monthly bills.  However offering to pick up the check or pay for groceries once in a while are little gestures that can go a long way when it comes to financial relief for your loved one.

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7 Cheap Valentine’s Day Gifts

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner  – it’s on Sunday – you may be searching for the perfect gift for your sweetheart.  Let me let you in on a little secret…you don’t need to spend a fortune planning the perfect evening at an expensive restaurant and a huge bouquet of flowers.  All you need to do is put a little love (and thought) into your gift.


Gentlemen let me give you a little help…don’t spend money on a generic (a.k.a. traditional) gift that you think your woman wants, spend money on a personalized gift you know she’ll love.  Flower shops hike up the prices on Valentine’s Day so avoid them at all costs.

If you want to find the perfect Valentine’s Day gift but don’t have a lot of money to spend try these gifts I know you’re lover will love.  I know I would (that’s a hint in case BF is reading).

Photo album

A framed picture is always a good gift, but a photo box or album is even better.  If you and your sweetie are snap happy this is the perfect gift to chronicle your relationship.  If you opt for the photo box you can even fill it with chocolates and there’s no need to visit Godiva, Hershey’s Kisses will do.  You can find Umbra photo boxes for around $25 and chocolates should cost no more than $10.

A Groupon Getaway

Romantic weekends don’t need to cost hundreds or thousands of dollars, all you need to do is check Groupon.  I have a friend who just spend 3 days in the Bahamas for under $300 thanks to Groupon Getaways.  Sign up for deals in your area

Couple’s massage

This may have a higher price tag if you book it on Valentine’s Day.  Give your special someone the Valentine’s Day card with gift certificate and book the appointment for a week or two later to save money.  Or better yet write the appointment details in the card, that way you know it’s taken care of.

Unplugged weekend

What could be better than spending a whole two days together without any interruptions.  Give your Valentine the gift of alone time.  No phones, no laptops and no tables – just the two of you for 48 hours.  Oh and did I mention this costs absolutely nothing.  #Priceless

Romantic playlist

Sneak your sweethearts iPod or Phone and create a special playlist for them full of their favorite songs and romantic soundtracks.  For my 80s-born-friends this is the 2016 equivalent of making a mix tape.  I love the song Take My Breath Away from the movie Top Gun and Almost Paradise from Footloose. You also can’t go wrong with a little Boyz to Men and Marvin Gaye.

Sexy movie marathon

There’s nothing like a good love scene to set the tone for Valentine’s Day weekend.  Load up your Netflix playlist and line up the DVDs to enjoy a sexy movie marathon with your sweetheart.  This is a cheap Valentine’s Day gift, but also a unique date idea for anytime of the year.

Home-cooked dinner

If you and your Valentine are always busy take some time to cook a good meal together and sit down to enjoy dinner.  Don’t forget the dessert – maybe something you can eat in bed.

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How Roleplaying can Add Spice to Your Relationship

couple in love

Roleplaying is’t just sexy – it increases your confidence in the bedroom. We love our partners but after a while, we start having fantasies of being a naughty nurse, a hunky firefighter, a hot doctor or a cute maid. Sometimes we just want more excitement in between the sheets – and roleplaying can do just that.

All you need for roleplaying is a little imagination and a sense of humor to play make-believe in the bedroom.

Roleplaying is beneficial to your relationship as it can build a greater connection between the two of you. Lovers who talk about their sexual desires, fantasies and feelings have stronger relationships. Why is this? It’s because they’re with someone they can trust and who can validate them. It can also keep things exciting and refreshes stale relationships. We do get into sexual ruts, life gets too busy and sometimes it can just be the same old routine that can get boring. When there is something new in the bedroom, the anticipation that builds up will push you to make time.

So, what if you’re a newbie and you have no idea what you’re doing or what you’re supposed to do? Here are a few tips to let go of your inhibitions and just enjoy and go with the flow:

  • Figure out your fantasy. One trick is to pretend to go to the hotel bar and pretend to be strangers picking each other up for the first time – but make sure that one of you reserves a room ahead of time. If you want to go all primal, you can pick out the ultimate cave room suite to bring out that wild side in your partner.
  • Share it. All good roleplaying starts when you share your fantasy with your partner. Bring up your fantasy as a compliment so that your partner won’t take it the wrong way and you’d have to describe what it is about that particular scenario that turns you on and will keep you going. You can describe these without feeling foolish when you’re in bed and talk about fantasies and turn-ons.
  • Establishing limits. Before losing yourself in your character, be sure to let your partner know what you’re comfortable in doing and when it gets too far, especially if you’re experimenting with a punishment scenario. Always remember that communication is the key. Let your partner know your limits and you can also establish a safe word that will bring the action to a stop once you get uncomfortable.

Don’t forget to have fun! The aim here is to feel turned on and roleplay is a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. You are both committed to each other and spicing things up a bit can be quite exciting.

How to Spend Valentine’s Day with Your Single Friends

Spend Valentine's Day

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner love is in the air.  Your coupled friends may be planning what they’re going to do, what they’re going to wear and who they’re going to spend the most romantic day of the year with.  Their heads may be filled with boxes of chocolate, candlelit dinners and romantic evenings.  However if you’re single Valentine’s Day is a whole other story.

For some this day of cupids and candy is just a reminder that you’re alone.  You know what I say, THAT’S O.K.  Spending Valentine’s Day alone is better than spending it with someone you may not even like, let alone love.  You know what’s even better than that?  Spending Valentine’s Day having fun with your single friends.

If you and your friends are flying solo this February 14 here are 9 ways to have fun on Valentine’s Day:

Scary movie marathon

I’m not sure why but Valentine’s Day brings out the horror flicks, but this time of year there always seems to be one or two playing in theatres.  This year The Boy and The Forrest seem to be equally terrifying, although neither one has to do with love.

Weekend road trip

It’s inevitable that no matter where you go this weekend you’re bound to be surrounded by happy couples.  Could you think of a better time to take a weekend road trip with friends?  At least if you’re in a different city there’s no chance of running into any past lovers.

Watch the NBA All Star game

For all the sports fans out there the NBA All Star weekend is once again taking place at the same time as Valentine’s Day.  If you love sports then put on your fan gear, order some food and enjoy three days of basketball festivities.

Lots and lots of chocolate

They say that chocolate makes you feel happy so if you’re sad (or celebrating) because you’re alone this Valentine’s Day why not indulge in chocolate to make yourself feel better.  I can’t think of a better time to splurge on some sweet treats than right now.

Stay off the internet

The one thing you should absolutely not do on Valentine’s Day is surf the internet.  You’ll end up spending money and buying things you don’t need to just to pass the time and that’s not good for your bottom line.  Or worse, you’ll end up on a random dating site looking for Mr. (or Mrs.) Right.  Or even worse, you’ll stalk your ex on Instagram or Facebook.  Just say no.

Cry at romantic movies

If you are in fact sad this Valentine’s Day then let yourself be sad.  I’ve learned that it’s not good to keep feelings inside.  So let them out at home on your couch with your favorite romantic movies.  Titanic, You’ve Got Mail and Burlesque are some of my faves.

Dance the night away

What could be more fun than getting all dressed up and going out dancing with your friends.  Dancing is a great way to relieve stress, burn some calories and have fun at the same time.  Thankfully Valentine’s Day is actually on Sunday this year so hopefully clubs won’t be crowded with lovebirds all up in your space.

Stay in with cocktails

Have you ever wanted to be a bartender?  Now’s the perfect time to get your drink on.  Plan a night in with your friends, mix some drinks, listen to good music and make it a sleepover to ensure everyone stays safe.  It’s also nice to have someone (i.e. your friends) to wake up with in the morning and have breakfast.

Manicures and pedicures

Spoil yourself with a beauty day at the spa.  Feeling good about yourself is a must, so go and get all dolled up with a manicure and pedicure.  This is especially a nice treat if you don’t spoil yourself often.  Dip into your fun money on Valentine’s Day and enjoy it.

How are you planning to spend Valentine’s Day?

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