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Buying Our First Home: Finding Budget & Spending Balance

First-time-home-buyer1This is the first post in a new series on Blonde & Balanced – Buying Our First Home – where I’ll chronicle our process to first-time home ownership!

A new home is in my near future!  If things go as planned, we’ll start looking for a new house – and become first-time home owners! – in the first few months of 2012.  We’ve always had the same budget in mind, but it’s a wide price range (not a high price range … the two are very different!).  We never plan to buy more house than we need, but how do you find that sweet spot between being too frugal or spending at the top of your price range?

Our price range spans about $100,000, meaning the lower number in our price range is $100,000 less than the high-end of our price range.  Even if we buy on the upper end of that range, we’ll still be within our budget – we’ll just be at the top of that budget.

The question is, do you sacrifice and spend less or do you go all in and spend more?  We’ve been living in apartments and spending frugally for many years, always thinking of our dream house.  Part of me wants to go big and get everything we want (within the budget).  But the other part of me wants to go frugal and buy at the lower-end of our budget so we can pay the house off several years quicker.

Since we never really bought a “starter” house, we’ll likely be in our first house for many years to come – maybe even until our kids graduate high school.  When I think of that, I want to go for the dream house at the higher end of our budget.  We’d still have it paid off by then, it would just take a little longer.

The zip codes where we’re looking at homes in is the biggest driver of our price range.  If we wanted to move back to our hometowns (other suburbs in Kansas City), we could probably spend about $100,000 less on a home.  Sounds tempting, but we’ve made a new home in our little space of Kansas City, we love this new “area”, and it’s closer to church and our jobs.

There is something enticing about owning a home with 5 bedrooms, a 3-car garage, a finished basement, an updated kitchen, and a huge backyard.  We could easily find that for an affordable amount in other neighborhoods, but it’s doubtful that we’ll find it where we’re looking to buy.

I guess I won’t know for sure which end of our price range we want to spend in until we start house-hunting with our future realtor.  Who knows, maybe in 9 months, the housing market will be on a rebound and prices will be rising.  Or maybe we’ll even find our dream house with all those extras at the lower end of our price range (now, THAT would be ideal).

In the meantime, I do plan to continue this series – Buying Our First Home.  I think many people are interested in what it’s really like to save for, plan for, shop for, and buy a new home.  We’ll be in the planning and saving for stages for several more months, but the house-hunting will be here before we know it!

What topics would you like to see in the Buying Our First Home series?

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Weddings: Sticking to a Budget & Vendor Customer Service

She’s making a list, checkin’ it twice, gonna find out who’s naughty or nice, Future Mrs. G is coming to town …

Is it okay to combine a Christmas song with a wedding theme the week after New Year’s?  In this case, it is, because I. Just. Did. That.

The list I’m referring to in the catchy jingle above is my never-ending wedding to-do list.  So far, this is what I’ve completed:

  • got engaged
  • booked a photographer
  • booked a caterer/cake person
  • booked the church/reception hall
  • booked a DJ
  • bought a wedding dress
  • picked out bridesmaids dresses
  • booked a honeymoon (!)
  • bought wedding shoes
  • had several panic attacks/nightmares
  • sent out save-the-dates
  • made fabulous homemade wedding invitations
  • booked a rehearsal dinner site
  • a few other miscellaneous things

WHEW!  And I’m not even close to being done!

Some notes on wedding vendors
The naughty or nice people I’m referring to in the above jingle are the … dun dun dun … wedding vendors.

In my experience so far, wedding vendors have been a bit … shady.  They are generally hard to work with and their prices usually always include that ridiculous wedding mark-up.  They’re all sweet, caring, and interested when they’re trying to win your business, but as soon as you put down the deposit, things change.  (This has happened to me in every case except with my caterer, who has been super nice and helpful.)

What the hell happened to customer service in this industry?  I thought everyone was supposed to be graveling at my feet and trying to make the bride happy?  This hasn’t been the case for me and I think I know why:  I care about my budget.  The word “budget” to wedding vendors is like garlic, holy water, or sunlight to vampires; they hear it and start to melt or a look of horror covers their face like they’re about to spontaneously combust.  What a bunch of drama queens.

Why I walked out on a potential florist
Next up on my wedding to-do list is the florist.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again:  flowers are about the least important aspect of my wedding day.  Yes, I know I could go with fake flowers, but even though flowers don’t mean much to me, I still want real ones.

So, a friend recommended a florist to me.  I contacted her and she was very accommodating and sweet until our first meeting.  At the beginning of the meeting, I stopped her in her sales pitch and told her I wanted to get the budget straightened out before we began.

“$750,” I said.

She shook her head and said she couldn’t do it.  (Mind you, that amount was ONLY for 6 bouquets and 10 boutonnieres.)

Then, I asked her what she could do for $1,000.

She said no.  She said she couldn’t do my bouquets and boutonnieres for a grand.

Knowing that I still needed flowers for the cake, too, I ended up walking out.  I thanked her for her time and wished her well in her business and left.

When I got to my car, I called a local grocery store who said they could do my entire wedding for $750 or less.

Lessons Learned

  • If something doesn’t matter much to you (like flowers), don’t go to a professional or a small business.  They might do better work, but they’ll charge more.
  • When someone doesn’t work with your budget, walk out.  Someone else WILL.
  • Never ever ask G to buy you flowers ever again because they are overpriced and a waste of money. ;)

I’m very happy I decided to go with a grocery store for the wedding flowers.  This particular grocery store is well-known for their wedding flowers, cakes, and catering, so I know they’ll do a good job.  And the fact that it fits into my budget is just the icing on the wedding cake.

What do you think you would splurge or skimp on for your wedding?